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Has the Choice Been Already Made For You?
Written by Kate Korolenko, 10a

  Family are the closest and dearest people who love you with unconditional love. They will always support and you can always rely on them. But what if you and your family find yourselves on opposing sides on such an important issue as choosing a career?

  It often happens that parents don’t listen to or encourage their children’s choice. For example, a child is told from the very beginning, “You’ll be a doctor like your father and grandfather.” They buy him the game Operation, a microscope, impose a love for chemistry and biology while the child goes to the drama club and enjoys it, dreaming of becoming an actor. There are quarrels, parents’ denial to accept their child’s dreams. What should a teenager do in such a situation? You need to let your parents see how good you are in a thing that you like.

  A similar situation is when parents have a family business and want the child to continue it. My friend clearly understands what he wants to become – a sailor. But his parents have a family business – network of stores. They want him to study in his hometown, helping them with business, get a management education. My advice to him: you need to find help and support from relatives or friends. He has an excellent position – he has a sister and brother who can help parents with business. Another thing is when parents want the child to fulfill their youthful dreams. For example, my mother dreamed of becoming a flight attendant, traveling around the world. She constantly talked to her daughter about the benefits of this work, because she believed that she had all the necessary parameters, but the fact is that it wasn’t my dream. Do you know how we solved this problem? We sat down together and made a list of advantages and disadvantages of this job. I didn’t want to leave my home and my sweetheart, I didn’t want to risk my life. My mother still doesn’t allow me to get pierced, hoping that someday I’ll follow her wishes.

  The situation is quite common when parents lived in poverty and didn’t have the opportunity to get an education. Now they want to give it to their child. As a rule, such parents want to give their children only the best, sending them to receive knowledge in the area of law or international relations. And this child just wants to be an ordinary hairdresser. Parents should listen to desires of the teenager, but at the same time explain that education is always necessary, the same management just to open your own beauty parlor later.