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Trust and Support between Parents and Adolescents
Written by Angelina Dikina, 10a

  Relationships are an integral part of any person’s life, but family relationships are considered to be the most important relationships. Of course, any relationship, both love and family, cannot exist without trust. Trust is the most valuable thing that is hard to earn and return. But what if parents and their children do not have a trusting relationship?

In the 21st century, adolescents are uncontrollable machines that want to express themselves; they are attracted by inaccessibility and unknown. But all their rash actions lead to many errors that they try to solve on their own, thereby creating more and more new problems. Probably all teenagers are afraid of the anger of their parents, and therefore accumulate life experience from their mistakes. But why not just tolerate being read morals and instead get practical advice of those who went through all these rough patches and avoid the problems that teenagers impulsively solve? Of course, like most teenagers, I did not trust my mother, but I trusted my friends until something happened. Friends turned out to be the worst enemies, having betrayed me they left with my secrets. And at that moment I had no one to turn to except my mother. And of course, every day she saved me from depression and she alone replaced several friends at once. She taught me that it’s not worth baring your soul and how to separate dozens of fleeting acquaintances from real friends. It is hard to imagine what I could turn into if I had neither support from my mother nor support from friends.

The following conclusion must be made: there can be as many friends as you like, but the family is one and forever. Therefore, children and their parents must coexist. Teenagers should not be afraid of parents, because everyone was once stupid children and made mistakes. But times have changed, and therefore parents should play the role of not only strict mentors, but also friends. Children who did not receive the support of their parents, become introverts or simply people lost in themselves.

But trust is not the only important thing that should be in the family. Support plays an equally important role. Of course, this trust is support on some side, but it is about the interests which the teenager would like to connect his future career and life with. Can a child achieve success without support? I think every person’s dream is a job that brings joy and does not have to bring a gigantic salary. But unfortunately, some parents are doing everything for their child to fulfill their dream, which was deprived of their grandparents. Because of this, relationships deteriorate and can disappear altogether. For this, it is necessary that the two sides consider everything. Perhaps the child’s ideas are crazy and parents want to protect them from the wrong choice. But if not, then we need to give weighty arguments to show the seriousness of our goals and intentions.

And as a conclusion, I want to say that people are creatures who can speak and therefore must use it. They should not be afraid of their mistakes, but share them with loved ones, so that they help solve them without impulse, the same applies to decisions.